Daddy Hack Number Two – Colicky Baby [Don’t Lose Your Cool]
Dad Hack Two – Try Not To Lose Your Mind With a Colicky Baby
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One of the hardest things I ever had to deal with is my oldest daughter being colicky. That was 23 years ago, and I still have nightmares.
I worked primarily second shift at the time and would usually get home around 2-3 am. Arielle’s mom worked first shift.
That meant Arielle was under my care and supervision from 6 am until her mother got home.
Like clockwork every morning at around 6 am Arielle would wake up and begin crying and screaming in obvious pain.
This would go on for hours every day. She was colicky. It took the doctors almost 6 months to come up with something that helped.
This is not an easy scenario for anyone to handle let alone on 3 or 4 hours of sleep, daily.
I still tell this story all the time.
Fast Forward 15 Years and Now I have a Son.
Here we go again. The only difference was the timing and the resolution.
Isaiah’s colic was usually a nighttime event. I was now on first shift.
I don’t think he was as bad because I don’t remember too many long days of screaming and crying.
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Four Years Later and Let’s Do It One More Time.
Izzy was like clockwork as well. 8 pm every night. I was still on first shift. It was still difficult.
Izzy is a little different in that whatever she does she feels the need to one-up everyone else. Even if she doesn’t know that’s what she’s doing.
It all started at birth. She made her entrance into the world 10 weeks early and left the hospital 4 weeks before she was due.
My wife and I really try to share some of the child raising burdens like having a colicky baby. It’s not always that simple though.
One parent is off from work the next day or one parent had an extremely tough day. Life has a way of getting in the way.
I still recall vividly one Saturday night when Izzy started screaming at 8 pm (as usual) and carried on until 4 or 5 am on Sunday morning. The only thing that soothed her was walking around with her.
I spent the entire night and the next morning walking around the house with her so that she could sleep.
How Do You Deal with a Colicky Baby?
Patience is definitely tested when you have a colicky baby. As you can see from the very few details I have provided it can be very challenging.
I have created some dad hacks for dealing with a colicky baby. These tips can be applied to anyone caring for a baby with colic. They can also be applied to almost any scenario where an infant is extremely fussy or cranky.
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Dad Hack Number Two [Try Not to Lose Your Mind] 8 Tips to Help You Deal With a Colicky Baby.
I know this can be challenging. A colicky baby can break even the strongest of men.
I also know that telling someone to be patient is silly. It’s one of those things you know you need to do but it’s not easy to do under duress.
Has anyone ever considered using a colicky baby to get someone to reveal information?
Listen to Music, With Headphones
I know what you’re thinking. Shouldn’t I be listening to the baby?
Trust me when I tell you that you will still hear your baby. The shrieking can penetrate even the best noise canceling headphones.
Plus, chances are you’re holding your baby as they’re going through being colicky.
Having another source of sound helps to draw the attention away from an otherwise relentless trail of crying and screaming. The steady pattern of a musical beat also helps you keep your cool.
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Now you’re probably thinking how can you watch TV with a screaming infant. The short answer is you can’t.
But, having the TV on with reruns of something you are quite familiar with really does help.
You’d be surprised how many channels have Law and Order SVU on in the middle of the night.
Of course, I cut the cord a while ago so using Netflix, Hulu, Prime Video or Plex is what I would do today. Even easier to watch reruns or a favorite movie this way. 23 years ago I did not have this luxury.
Having the TV on helps distract you ever so slightly from your screaming child. The familiarity of a show you already know also helps keep you calm.
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Put Them on Their Stomach.
OK, OK. I know. Don’t beat me up for this one.
I am by no means a doctor and I would never tell you to do this while everyone is sleeping. I know the risks and have heard it from doctors all too many times.
Putting an infant on their stomach seems to help relieve the pressure causing the colic. There are rules to this though.
You will have to stay awake and watch them. You should ensure they are lying down somewhere that is safe. Putting them down on their stomachs in a crib is never a good idea.
We used to put them down in the middle of our bed or on a blanket in the middle of the floor. We have a large king size bed, so this made it easier.
With Izzy and Isaiah at some point, we did start letting them sleep on their stomachs. Again, we knew the risks and one of us stayed awake when we first started allowing them to sleep on their stomachs.
This did work. We were still not sleeping but they were.
I cannot stress enough the dangers of placing an infant on their stomach. I was hesitant to add this to the dad hack because of that.
You should not allow an infant to sleep on their stomach without constant supervision.
This one is a pill a little easier to swallow.
Take turns. Get as many people involved as possible. Older siblings, your family, your spouse. Take turns.
Chopping up the amount of time spent with a colicky baby makes it a little more tolerable.
It is OK to ask for help. You’re dealing with a tough situation that will raise your stress levels to new heights.
In fact, ASK FOR HELP. Don’t wait until you feel that you’re losing your cool. You’re taking care of a fragile little human being. One wrong move can have very tragic results. ASK FOR HELP.
Take turns. Did I say that already?
This might sound mean but it’s not. They’re going to cry anyway. Let them cry.
There really isn’t anything more you can do other than try to position them in a way that it does not hurt them as much.
If you are already stressed and need a break from walking around or doing whatever it is you are doing to help them alleviate the pain then just put them down and let them cry for a little while.
We did do this a few times and they would eventually fall asleep from exhaustion. That will be the best sleep you or they will get for a while. Take the opportunity.
Sleep When You Can
So many new parents make the mistake of using the baby’s sleep time as productivity time. WRONG!
My wife made this mistake and my daughter is making it now. SLEEP WHEN THEY SLEEP.
Get some sleep. Sleep is rare as a new parent. You will be exhausted for many months, maybe years. Get sleep where you can.
Once they have stopped crying and are finally sleeping you too should sleep.
The dishes can wait. The floor will still be there tomorrow to clean. No one expects your house to be perfect.
Sleep when they sleep, and you will feel better when the next round of colicky baby comes up.
Keep the End in Mind
It will eventually stop. Today’s episode will stop. Being colicky will eventually stop.
One day you will have a story to tell your grown children who just became a parent.
It will seem like a distant, horrific and memorable time. One that still sends chills down your spine years later.
You will get through it and become even more patient as a result. There is an end to a baby being colicky. A daily end and a permanent end to colic.
Then you deal with the next issue.
One Final Help for Colicky Babies and Dads (Parents)
I wish we had discovered this sooner. We didn’t learn about Colic Calm until we were going through this with Izzy for a couple of weeks. Colic Calm works great for temporary relief of Gas and Colic. We purchased it locally but it is on Amazon as well.
As I said having a colicky baby was one of the most stressful things I have ever had to endure. My patience was tested daily for months on end. I got through it. Each one of my children got through it.
I would not wish it on anyone. And I did it 3 times.
Those that know me know that before my children I had almost no patience. Children have a way of changing you. Today I know I have a lot more patience for things, mostly because of my children.
I think the most important thing in dealing with a challenging baby whether it’s colic or something else is getting help.
Now let me close with this. As the parent of a newborn, you will be exhausted. A few days after my son Isaiah was born I had to go out to get something. He was still in the hospital.
I remember driving home to get whatever it was that we needed and driving back to the hospital. I think I was only a few blocks from the hospital when I had to stop at a red light.
No more than 1 or 2 minutes later I was awakened by the sound of blaring car horns. I fell asleep waiting for a traffic light to change.
Welcome to the club new dads!
This is super helpful I’ll be showing a friend who will be a soon to be dad I think he would enjoy this
My son was colicky during his first months, and it was super stressful for me! Thank goodness my husband was there to support me through and through.
The support is so important!!
I’m lucky my son was never colicky. These are good tips, especially the headphones!
Don’t wish a colicky baby on anyone. It’s very hard.
Yes parenthood is exhausting especially when they are newborns. Thankfully mine weren’t too colicky but neither liked to sleep. In fact that cam still be a challenge with the almost 4 year old. Patience becomes key for all the years (so far anyway…my oldest is almost 14).
Great advice for dads, I love that you’re putting this info out there! 🙂 Thanks for sharing.
Love the tone of your writing. Babies love to be held and skin-to-skin definitely seems to work. Putting in shifts for baby care is all too familiar. I have relatives and friends with infants now, and they could benefit from this post!
Oh man, colicky babies can be difficult to handle — you’re left wondering what to do and how to help them! These are amazing tips for dads of babies. Greta post!
Colic is so awful for both baby and the parents!! My daughter had it every evening for 3 hours – nowhere near as bad as it sounds like you have been through 🙁 Some great advice
Three hours seems like an eternity with a colicky baby. Glad you’re past it now.
This is some very solid advice! Thank you for sharing what has helped you in the past.
This is really great advice! My son wasn’t colicky, but my husband was when he was a baby and my in-laws always tell me how hard it was. Being patient and having the end in mind are the best tips here, thanks for sharing!
This is some really great advice for dads. I don’t have a baby but I bet this will be really helpful for those who do.
I can’t imagine how tough it must be to have a baby who’s crying so much and can’t be settled. Ours were pretty calm babies, they just never slept!
My 4-year-old still doesn’t sleep.
There are so many difficulties during the baby stage. I’m so happy to be past that! This is great advice for those in the thick of it.
I’m so glad my kids didn’t have colic. But, I did use ear plugs when we were sleep training or they were teething, just to minimize the high pitch shrieks while I tended to them.
Ugh, I do not miss either of those challenges either. My son cut his first tooth on Thanksgiving Day. Worst Thanksgiving Ever.
What a great post. I ahve to share this with my husband. This could be really helpful for him
I agree, take advantage and sleep when you can. There were times when I was so worried about cleaning. I cleaned instead of getting sleep and I regretted it later.
A lot of people make this mistake. Me? I liked taking naps with the kids. Unfortunately they don’t nap as much anymore.
Such a great post. I know how hard it is but the most important thing to have is be patient with them all the time.
Its really helpful for first time daddy’s out there. My son is like this up to his 2nd month.
These are really a great tips and I will definitely share this with my friends as he understand and learn how to manage the situation.
My first son was very colicky. He did not sleep through the night until 16 months old! In fact, most times he was up a minimum 4+ times per night just wailing and wailing. It takes an incredible amount of patience, but my wife and got through it. We also have become zombies I think who no longer need sleep, lol.
But these are some great tips for helping the situation, especially the ones with helping one another and being patient. Sometimes it’s the small things that are the most you can do.
I had no idea about this. I can imagine how painful it is to hear your baby crying and not being able to do anything about it. After a while, it must becoming irritating too!
My son also behave same for six months. It’s really stressful. I will tell my friends about it.
This stage can be so hard. It’s so awesome when dads get involved and help with some of the baby care tasks. Music and breaks can definitely help take the stress off.
Dads should be involved!!
I can imagine. We have twins and one of our sons had colic for an hour every day. Colic is awful for both baby and the parents!! Great advice.
Twins!! Part of me wanted twins and part of me did not. I cannot even imagine the amount of lost sleep with two infants.
I am so living this right now! I am definitely going to get the noise canceling head phones a try!
If you find a pair of headphones that can block those shrieks let me know…those are good headphones.
I’m pregnant right now and um, while I have heard of Colic, I am not even 10000% sure what it is – but it sounds like something I also hope to not have to deal with! hahaha!
Well, we are still planning a baby and my hubby need to read this and be prepared for anything unexpected that might come up 🙂
I wish I could say preparation helps but it really doesn’t.
Well this is the first where I came across the daddy preps … love it really.