The Dad Tax Ep 2 The Side Hustle FB

The Side Hustles Episode

Inflation is at its highest level ever. Gas prices are also higher than ever before. The cost of food and other items needed in your home has gotten expensive.  Our dollar doesn’t go as far as it used to today.

What’s a dad to do?

In Episode 2 we talk about side hustles. How can you make a few extra dollars every week with minimal impact on your family time and home life?

I talk about a few of my side hustles as well as some other popular options like Uber Eats.

I do some affiliate marketing, domain flipping, and purchase dividend-paying stocks.

What other side hustles would you add?

Here is the microphone I mentioned in the podcast – ATR2100x Microphone Kit

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When I was about 10 years old, I had a paper route. Now, you can’t do that these days, there’s not allowed anymore. But when I was 10, it was actually encouraged for my age group to have a paper. So I’d get on my bike, I’d go to the neighboring apartment community. And I delivered papers to I don’t know how many people’s, how many people but it was a significant number of few dozen. And I would also have to go and collect the payment for those papers every week in some paid some didn’t. Although, I guess I had a collections job at the tender age of 10. And then the Sunday papers, the Sunday papers used to be massive and heavy, and you’d have to put them together, they would just drop off a pile, you’d put them together and you deliver. It was a tough job for a 10 year old, but I did it and then did this job for months until somebody smashed out the windows and one of the buildings that I delivered to, and they blamed a 10 year old paperboy the paper fired me. I couldn’t clicked on employment because I was only 10. And I didn’t work again until I was 16. I had to find other ways to make money. In the meantime, my family didn’t have a lot of money. I did things like sell baseball cards, run errands for people, and so forth until I was 16 and got my first real job where I paid taxes and worked for 30 to 40 hours a week while I was in high school. Can’t do that these days, you got to find different ways to make money as a kid, if at all allowance maybe. But it’s an interesting conundrum. How do you make extra money at a time when single income just isn’t cutting it? Welcome to the dad tax podcast, a podcast for dads by dads a podcast for all things, dads, including mental health, fatherhood, challenges, relationships, sports, business, grilling, and more. So put on your white new balances, sit back in your reclining chair. And let’s talk dads. All right. All right. All right. It’s episode two of the debt tax podcast. I know you didn’t think we’d make it to episode two. But here we are, we’re recording it. And last week was pretty heavy podcasts talked a lot about men’s mental health and the things going on in the United States. And in some cases around the world. And how men are dealing with it, dads are dealing with it. You know, the focus here is dads. So we’re going to talk about something a little bit later sort of today. And it’s because we have high inflation, gas prices are through the roof and cost of just about everything has gone up tremendously. The topic of today’s podcast is the side hustle, what do we do to make a few extra dollars to try to survive in this economy? I know not everybody needs to do that. But most of us do. Most of us want to find extra streams of income. And they say if you want to become an you know, I’m gonna probably butcher this. But if you want to become a billion a millionaire, sorry, you need to have seven sources of income. And so obviously, we can have seven jobs, that would be insane. So I know people that do two or three jobs. And that’s a lot to manage, especially when you have young kids at home. And I know there are dads that were two jobs while the wife stays at home or there are stay at home dads, and we’ll do a podcast about stay at home dads. In the future. I’m kind of a stay at home dad. And then I’ll explain all that in that podcast in the future. I own a business, but I also have some other sources of income. So the question then is what could be a successful side hustle? What type of thing can I do to possibly earn a few extra dollars during the week to support my family better to put extra gas in a car, you know, maybe take your kids in the family out somewhere someday, or go on a vacation or have a better Christmas or whatever holidays you celebrate.

So all of these things come up throughout the year birthdays, birthdays, anniversaries, all of that comes up throughout the year. What can we do to earn a few dollars so that I’m able to provide better life we’ll say, again, I don’t want I don’t want the sentiment to be that you have to have all this money to have a great life. That’s not true. But things are a little easier when you have a little extra income coming in. And then the second part of the question is how do I have that second or third income without killing myself without having to physically you know, a lot of times those part time jobs are a little more physically meaning in the past, I worked at a FedEx warehouse FedEx facility, not aware also hub part time. And my shift was I think it was two to 7am. And that was after work in a second a full time second shift job. And that job, I hated that job. It was the single worst job I’ve ever had. And I’ve had some pretty tough jobs. I’ve worked in fast food for a while. I’ve worked retail before. I’ve worked other warehouse jobs, that I could not stand that FedEx job, and I quit within three or four months, it was just too much couldn’t couldn’t do it wasn’t sleeping much in the job, but just was miserable the whole time I was there and I probably had one of the easier jobs on the in the facility. I was quality control. So if I saw damaged packages, I put them to the side, fix them, if I could relabeled them whatever I had to do. But I hated it so much, I would actually get on the trucks and help them unload the trucks just so I could get out of there earlier. And I don’t know, maybe it was because it was a second job, I don’t really know. However, after that I got a second job, part time job in computer repair. The pay was less, but I liked the job. It was also in the morning, before I went to my second shift job. I liked that job. I did not stay there long, either. For various reasons. I moved on, and started my own business eventually. But those jobs were to supplement my income. That’s why they were there. I was on a probationary period at my full time job. And so those jobs were there to supplement my income. I’ve worked retail I worked at Old Navy for a few months and did not like that job. I was the only I think the only male there. What made it worse is I was probably late 20s, early 30s At the time, and it was all college age girls. And I know what your dad’s thinking, No, I did not enjoy it. It’s not fun. It was extremely boring. Still, FedEx is still my least favorite job of all time. So I didn’t last there alone either. And so the common thread there is those jobs, while maybe mentally are not that exhausting, physically, they’re exhausting. And usually that’s what happens when you have a second job, it’s usually not something you’d like to do, some of us get lucky and we can I get a job that we’d like to do part time job that we’d like to do. So in the case of the computer system. To computer job, computer, it was mostly computer repair job. And I was mostly fixing Apple, which was great, because I wasn’t that familiar with apple at the time. Now my company, we do support Apple computers, because I am familiar with it. So to that, in that respect, it was helpful. But all these jobs, the common thread, again, they were physically demanding. And you know, after working eight plus hours every day at another job, didn’t didn’t want to do it. The other job was a call center job, not physically demanding, except that you are sitting all day that can be that can be very bad for your health. But it was mentally exhausting. And so maybe combine the two and you have a problem. So so how can you make money without killing yourself? How can you do that? What is the what are side hustles that will work. So I know some people do some network marketing, or you might hear it referred to as pyramid schemes. Some companies are a little more respectful than others. And I did do Beachbody before so that was Shakeology, you may be familiar with it, and p90x and things like that. They didn’t really have much success with it. Not much of a salesperson, I guess. So that’s another thing. Do you know, some of us are not good at sales. So we don’t want to do that. But network marketing could work if you’re good at sales. If you really work if you’re good at sales. I know someone who does network marketing for a wine clean wine company, I forget the name of the company now.

They do quite well. I know people that do it for Send Out Cards. And I actually did sign up for Send Out Cards for a little while. And they do quite well. I didn’t do well with it. And again, it’s probably because I didn’t have my heart in it. So I found a few things that I’ve that I have interested in and have relative some success with. The first one is affiliate marketing. So how does that work? You create links. You sign up for programs. Let’s start with that you sign up for a program so I’m going to use Google Adsense as the one I one of the ones that I use. And I use AdSense because I don’t have to pay can choose what I want to put on the on the website or what I want to send. And it’s mostly on websites, I don’t have to pick and choose, I just put the code in the website and it automatically generates the ads. And that’s what affiliate marketing is that you’re putting links on a website, or depending on what the program is, you might be sending links to people. Amazon has a common one doesn’t pay as well as others, but it is an easier one to manage. And I do do Amazon affiliate marketing. So I’ll get to that in a moment. So the AdSense is really as you go, you sign up, if you have a website that you have out there. You sign up, you and you create, they approve you based on your website. content, so you can’t have like a spammy website, it’s got to be a real website. So it could be a blog, you could be writing about something. And some blogging could be another source of income. If your blog and your social media becomes popular, then you become a, an influencer, you may actually get paid to advertise certain products on you know, lately, it’s Tik Tok, or Instagram reels and things like that. That’s a way to make some income. You have to have some time to do that blogging is not an easy job. You could potentially do tick tock and take off depending on your content. I know there’s there’s a tick tock I follow. It’s just him and his his his dog Doberman Pinscher dog, and he’s doing quite well, he’s doing great with it. You have to raise the dog, though you have to home train the dog, you have to train the dog to do the things that he does. And you have to have the time to do it. So yes, it still can be exhausting. But if you enjoy doing it, as this person obviously does, then you can make some money with it. So the back to the affiliate marketing, or the in this case to AdSense for now. So he put the code on your website in key spots. So you know, you read 1000 1000 word blog, you put it in a couple spots during the blog, somebody clicks on it. And I’ve had some success with that, you know, a few $100 a year. I probably make from that. And the other one, the other two things I’m doing. I mentioned already Amazon affiliate marketing that I’ve had more success with. And the reason I’m more successful that is I do reviews of certain products, put the links back to those products for Amazon, you have to sign up for the affiliate program, you put the links in, and people come to your blog and click on those links. But even better than that is if somebody I always get asked, you know, what’s a good computer or what’s a good microphone I use, I have this microphone. This microphone. I love this microphone, I actually went and I’ll put a link to it in the podcast notes. But it’s a an ATR 2100, I broke the first one I had somebody gave it to me as a gift. I went and bought another one, even though there’s newer mics out there now for about the same price. I bought another ATR 220 100 Because I’m sorry, ATR 2100. Because I enjoy that microphone. I think it sounds good. And I like using it. I’ve had other microphones and they sound like garbage. So I’ll put a link, of course, it’ll be my Amazon affiliate link. So you know, go click on it and help me earn a few more dollars. But people ask me for recommendations, so I’ll send them to Amazon links and networks, that works great. I’ve made more money in Amazon in one month than I’ve done in ants, AdSense all year. So that’s another way to go. And Amazon almost always has what people are looking for. So somebody says, hey, I need a laptop. I do work with distributors, I go to the distributor, and there’s a wait for laptops. So I’ll go to Amazon and say, Well, here’s the laptop and you can get, you know, in a couple days. Here’s the link. I made more money in Amazon in the month of April, I think than I did on AdSense or last year. So that’s another good way to make money. Now the third way this is a little bit just some might say controversial, I don’t think it is, but some might think it is.

And that is domain flipping. I take domains, I look for domains. So I’m going to talk about the most recent one I sold. I had a rival dad’s dot com. And then I don’t remember where if I found that and I did initially plan on using it. And I changed my mind and decided I wasn’t going to use it. Because I just don’t have the time I have I don’t know of my own sites is probably half a dozen up that I have to manage. Including the dad tax I have to manage it. It takes time it takes you know, just the maintenance of the website takes time. So factor all of that in if you’re going to do website if you’re going to do any affiliate marketing, you need to have time to manage the website content. Not all of my websites do affiliate marketing, the dad tax does and there’s another affiliate A review site that I use. Anyway, so you buy a domain, like I said, I bought rival dad’s dot com, I initially was going to use it, I changed my mind you, here’s the trick, you have to find something that you think could be high value. Like rival, I said, Well, that’s pretty cool domain name is two words. And it’s got its, you know, you see posts all the time, if you’re in dad forums, that dad, Facebook groups, or whatever, you see people talking about rival dads all the time. So, so cool, I’ll buy that domain. And initially, I had planned on doing something around, you know, Yankees versus Red Sox, or Green Bay versus Chicago or stuff like that. And I was that was going, that was a podcast idea. And I was going to do that. And I changed my mind, just don’t have the time. And so I sold. So I bought the domain originally for $12 Sold it for 600. And this is domain flipping. So I probably have about a dozen or so domains right now, all valued at around somewhere between 750 and 2000, I think the highest one is 2000. That’s the value that the appraisal that was put on it. So I still I’m working on selling all of them. So you have to the trick is to find a domain that you think could be a value. And then flipping it. So you buy it for $12, which is about average price for I usually only stick But you could go through dozens and dozens of domain extensions. Now top level domains are called so dotnet is is the most popular, those were some of the more some of the original ones. Now there are dozens and dozens and dozens of them that are out there. And so you find when it’s high value, usually high value means either either one or two words, you know, real words. Or if you could get like a three or four letter domain, those are considered high value as well. So I have some domains out there for sale. And rival dads is the one that most recently sold $600. From a $12 investment, it’s pretty good return. Now, sometimes you’ll go and you’ll search for domains, and they’ll say that, that it’s a premium domain, and they’ll say they want you know, 1000s of dollars for it, then it’s not worth it. Because you’re probably not going to get that money back. Not like you would a $12 a year investment not a big deal. You know, $10,000 initial investment could be a big deal for you. And unless you plan to use it for something that you know will make you more than $10,000. It’s not really worth it. So I say stay away from now that $10,000 or whatever it is, that’s an initial investment. After that, they charge you the normal yearly domain rate, which is somewhere between usually between 12 and $15, depending on the top level domain extension. So dot coms, I think around 18 year now, depending on where you buy them from. So those are the things I do now for a little bit extra income. Among other things, I occasionally do build websites. That was a primary business model a few years ago, not anymore. My primary business model is it. I call it proactive it we try to do everything before anything happens. Which is essentially a managed service provider. That’s the primary business model. I still occasionally build a website here and there if I have the time, because it is time consuming for me. And so what are some other things that you could do? Well, you know, if you listen to Gary Vaynerchuk, Gary Vee, you could buy and sell sports memorabilia, baseball cards is the big thing for him. But sports memorabilia. You know if you happen to catch, you know, the guy that caught Todd Brady Tom Brady’s what they thought was going to be his last touchdown ever because he said he was going to retire and then sold it. I don’t remember what it was. I think it was half a million dollars.

Unfortunately, Tom Brady then said he wasn’t he was going to come back. And I think that forfeited the sale or he had to give the money. I don’t remember what it was. But anyway, sports memorabilia could be worth something you don’t have out there GT rookie card here. I could flip it. I paid almost nothing for it. I could probably sell it for one or $200. Now I think I used to do that a lot more. I don’t anymore. I had 10s of 1000s of cards and I had some very high value cards. But they disappeared in a move many years ago. And I just never got back into it after that. But that’s another avenue. In sports memorabilia seems to be growing, not just the cards, but all types of sports memorabilia people collect when they knocked down Yankee Stadium the Oakland stadium would put up the new one people collected stuff from the from Yankee Stadium. Could that sell today probably. The Aaron judge bobblehead that I got a Jedi Knight Judge bobblehead from I think it was pre COVID. So I’ve seen them on there was a giveaway for the first so many 1000s of people in Yankee Stadium one night. And I see them on eBay, eBay now going anywhere between 60 and $100. You know, no investment, initial investment other than going to Yankee game, you’re probably gonna go to anyway. And you could turn it around and make $100 on it. sports memorabilia. I see people that will do auto detailing on the side, there’s a gentleman down the street from me that does auto detailing on the side. And he picks charges, I think 100 and something dollars per car, depending on what how bad it is, and what kind of car it is. And he does this on his spare time after hours after work or on the weekends. And you always see more cars up there all the time. So he’s making some money with that. Here’s the side hustle that I sometimes partaken. And it’s easier than you might think. So, stocks. The key here is don’t become a stock investor unless it’s really something you want to delve into deeply. Because it takes a lot of research a lot of time, a lot of energy. And you have to know how financial markets work. And I really don’t have the time or energy to or desire to want to do that. What I do know is that dividend stocks are great investment vehicles. So I’m going to use one that I that I have purchased some of in the past. And Microsoft, Microsoft is reasonably priced when you compare it to other stocks like Apple, Amazon, Google, things like that. Tesla, dividend stocks simply mean, they pay a dividend and usually quarterly for you to own that stock. So if you purchase, you know, 100 shares of Microsoft, you then get paid quarterly to just to hold that stock, and then the value of that stock goes up. You don’t have to pay. By the way, seek a tax professional, don’t take tax advice from me, but you don’t have to pay taxes until you sell those stocks. And that so that, you know, there’s the benefit in doing that. Now, let’s say you say you don’t want to buy Microsoft, I don’t know what Microsoft stock is today. But let’s say you don’t want to buy Microsoft, you don’t like Microsoft. So it’s actually up to almost 245. Almost today, I didn’t pay that much for Microsoft ticket paid one something when I bought it. You want Amazon. And so let’s say Amazon stock is see Amazon was actually trading at 140 did do a split strike Google, one of them is still really high, I don’t remember who it was. So you you you want to buy this expensive stock. So Google is 2148 92. Right now $2,140.92 a share. But you don’t have $2,000 to invest in Google stock in one stock. That is well, you can get an app called stash and purchase. So on it always went to Google stock. So then you don’t own a full share your own on it, I was worth and you still make. If it goes up 1%, you make 1% If it goes down 1%, you lose 1%. If they pay a dividend, you still get whatever percentage of one share you own in dividends. So if they pay $1 dividend you would get and you purchase 10% of a share, you would get 10 cents. Doesn’t sound like a lot. But as you purchase over time, you will make some money and don’t have to do anything is passive income dividends. Another way to take or to make some money is to take online surveys.

haven’t really tried doing this, I think I may have done one or two in the past you but you could get paid you can earn up to you can earn a few dollars per survey, I don’t know what the the actual dollar amount. So you’d have to do a lot of surveys in order to make some money. And the problem that I found with this is that sometimes those surveys include ads, and it gets to be annoying. And you know, trying to control the amount of ads. It’s really difficult to manage sometimes. So if you could find a good service site that will pay, that’s great. Do that. No other way to earn some income on the side. Some people do UberEATS DoorDash. And what is the other one called? I don’t remember what it’s called right now. But there’s a few of them. So Uber Eats DoorDash probably two of the more well known ones. And this is a great service. So there’s been a lot of talk about how unsafe Uber and Lyft can be because you don’t you don’t know who you’re letting in your car. And I get that. So if you do Uber Eats, you’re not letting anybody in your car. Your car’s gonna smell like food at the end of the day. But you could clean that out and make a few dollars delivering Uber Eats or DoorDash now where that becomes a problem only it could become a problem is, you know, you got to try to stay in your geographical area. So if you’re not in an area with a higher population with a lot of restaurants, you’re probably not going to do that well. But you also got to consider the wear and tear on your car gas is, you know, in some areas now is over $5 a gallon. So these are all the things you have to consider when you’re doing Uber Eats. So try to stay geographically close to where you are, if you can, or pick an area and just stay in that area for the night, or the day doing some deliveries and make some money. Some people do quite well with UberEATS and DoorDash. And other services, others do not. So it really depends on the timing of the day. And the location. If you’re not in a more popular more populated area, with a lot of restaurants, you’re probably not going to do too well. So you know, take that for what it’s worth, it’s not hard to sign up, you just have to show that you have a reliable car, I think insurance, obviously and a valid driver’s license. So those are some ways some other ways to make money. Another way you could be a co an umpire. So for my, my son plays baseball, and the umpires make anywhere between 50 and $75. A game a lot of games are doubleheader. So now that you’re making now you’re making anywhere between 100 and $150, just to a baseball game, or two, depending on the day. So you’re out there for four hours make $150 You know, that’s a little less than $40 an hour, that’s not bad at all, if you find the right League, do that, you know, do three, four games a week, you’re making a couple $100 That it’s cash, almost always cash in your pocket. So go up in game got to know the game, obviously. And I’m sure you know soccer and hockey and football are probably similar in nature, you get paid to up or ref a game. Basketball was another one. So you go do that and make a few extra bucks. And you get to enjoy the game day at a game to got to wear a lot of gear and it could get hot. But still, it’s fun, get to maybe do a little coaching on the side. Now here’s one I’m considering and sort of started the process. And I’ll tell you, you have to have a you have to have energy, I guess it really depends. So writing an ebook, on I have a few ebooks out there. But I only have one on Amazon in the one and Amazon was put there just to see how the self publishing process works because I am planning to write some legitimate books. So the one on Amazon is not really a book, it’s something I put together to try to generate an email list. Many years ago, I took it made it a PDF, put it on Amazon created an ebook, and actually sold one. And I don’t even know how that happened. But I sold one. I got it. I have it on Amazon for $1. So I get 35 cents every time it’s sold. So you know if I can get a couple million of my closest friends to go there and buy it. That’d be spectacular. Just look for me on Amazon, Scott Gombar. But I’ve been asked to author a book on on dads haven’t gotten around to that really, I’d write a lot of blogs, but not so much on on the book end for that. And I am also started writing a book on social engineering, I guess, just the short story. It’s not exactly that, but it’s sort of that. And it’s really a book about how to protect yourself against social engineering scams and all the different ones that are out there and so forth. And so that’s my goal is to put that on Amazon, I wanted to get it done by the end of the year, but I had just have not worked on it in a few months. But this is another way you can make money. You don’t have to write a big book, that’s this book I’m planning on being pretty large book.

You could write a smaller book and put it on Amazon and make a little bit of money. There are people that I know I know someone who wrote a LinkedIn book a look a book about LinkedIn. And she’s done okay with it. She put it on Amazon as an e book. And I think you can also set up Amazon to have physical books delivered. And she does okay with that. The problem with doing a book on LinkedIn, you’re gonna have to rewrite it every time there’s an update to LinkedIn. It’s a lot of work, but it is something that can be done I guess in a sense, the book I am reading could also be the same issue. So there may be a dad or two book a book or two about dads in the future. I don’t know yet. I’ve thought about writing some fictional books. Probably not really that creative when it comes to that so I don’t know that I could do that. But it’s crossed my mind. This is another way you know sell online workshop. If you are good at something I know people that do workshops on cooking, on SEO, which I could also do. The, by the way, the book on the eBook on Amazon is about SEO, it’s the five things your SEO forgot, and what it’s called, and how it’s costing your business, something like that. I don’t even remember the title see. But you could sell online workshops. If you’re good at a topic, create an online classroom for it, and sell it. So what a lot of people do is they do the initial one live recorded and then put it on Udemy. You can use teachable you can get, you can actually have a free account on teachable. But this is, you know, you could do this at home when the kids are asleep. Spend an hour or two at night recording or writing or whatever. You could do virtual assistant. Somebody’s looking to post stuff to their social media, all the social media platforms, now it’s possible to schedule the posts out, you’re charged to schedule the posts and make a few dollars. Now this is not same as social media manager, a social media manager comes up with content creates the content schedule, the content plans everything out ahead of time. You’re just taking the posts and scheduling them. That’s it. You’re not creating them. You’re not doing anything creative with it, you’re just scheduling that’s what a virtual assistant might do as a virtual system, I take phone calls, they’ll do anything like an office assistant would do really. The other thing I would add probably one more thing for for the dads out there, you could cut grass. So I will tell you in my area of the world Central Connecticut, it took me years to find a reliable landscaper to just cut my grass for the most part, they do mulch every now and again are seeding. But for the most part, they’re just cutting grass and into cleanups fall and spring cleanups. All of which don’t take a lot of knowledge of landscaping, the landscaping stuff, you know, that’s complicated, but cutting grass is not super complicated. And in the years we’ve been in this house, we’ve been here now for 10 years. For probably four or five years, I tried to find a landscaper to do it, to cut the grass clean up in the fall in the spring and put down mulch as needed and seed. And if they didn’t show up, they did a horrible job, I wouldn’t come out and do it a horrible, horrible job of doing it. Or I had another guy told me he he’s not going to do it because he couldn’t get a stand up mower through my gate. The gate wasn’t wide enough. It took me until last year to find someone to do this. And that turned out to be a friend of mine who started a landscaping company. So find a few neighbors who don’t want to take the time to cut their grass, cut the grass for them and make a few dollars. You know, if you find five or six neighbors that winter grass cut every one to two weeks, depending on where you are and how much rain you get. You can make a few $100 every week.

It’s manual labor, but doesn’t take a lot of a lot of brainpower. I used to enjoy cutting the grass and really, it’s about time really at this point. I just don’t have the time to do it. Because I have all these streams of income right. And I record these podcasts and hopefully these podcasts when he doesn’t know the way to make money, start a podcast, find some sponsors and make some money on the sponsorships. I don’t have any sponsors, counting on all the affiliate revenue that might come from the site and maybe one day I’ll get a sponsorship. But that’s another avenue podcast. I’ve got one last bonus for you. Again not a lot of brain power involved long as you have a GPS and a little bit of muscle I guess sign up for amazon flex you can deliver packages with Amazon flex for up to $18 an hour. If you go to a website actually says 18 to $25 an hour but it all depends on I suppose the area and a few of the variables but it isn’t you know somewhat easy way. Again considering wear and tear on your car and gas being what it is. It is a way to maybe make a few extra dollars to help with the bills around the house or plan an extra vacation or plan your your holiday and birthday giving your anniversary givings and things like that. So go out there I’ve listed I don’t know how many different possibilities for side hustles get out there make a few extra dollars because Lord knows we all need it right now. The economy is is inflation is through the roof and everything is just extra rent somewhere. It cost us an extra $460 a month now versus last year to live right now. That that’s insane. That it cost that much but you see it you see it in gas I buy a gallon of milk I can see it. I buy I buy water Poland spring gallons by the K In the price of that is the highest I’ve ever seen. Just to give you some examples, things that are in short demand, you know, baby formula was an issue. Now they’re saying Siracha sauce is a serratia, I think it’s Siracha is going to be short is going to be a supply chain issue with that now, because there’s not enough peppers. So all of these things prices go up. And we’ll make the same amount of money we did last year, the year before, probably still, because of the pandemic, most a lot of us did not get raises, I have not raise my rates in business. So that’s something you know, kind of on the back burner, I don’t want to really do that to my clients, but it may be necessary. So we have to find other ways to supplement our income. And so these are, I don’t know, I think I listed about a dozen or so side hustles I’ll count them up later. And we’ll we’ll include that in the list on the on the website. But these are some ways to make some extra money. So if that is where you’re at and you need to make a few extra dollars, then hopefully you find someone on this list to help you and if you have questions, happy to answer them for you. Go out there and be the dad you know, I know you could be this has been the dad tax podcast hosted at the dad We have blog posts and other cool dad stuff. Go check that out. Find us on social media, we are on Instagram. We have a Facebook group, go check out the Facebook group it’s Dad tax join the group if your dad dads only. We’re going to be starting tick tock and so lots of fun stuff going on. For the dad tax. Of course this podcast and eventually we’ll have guests. So it’s time for your dad joke of the week for people are heading to Hawaii on a plane, a pilot, a lawyer, a priest and a kid. Suddenly the plane starts shaking and begins to go down. Searching around the cabin they find only three parachutes. I have a family and a daughter who’s expecting since the pilot before anyone can stop him he grabs a parachute and jumps off the plane. The lawyer says well I’m the smartest man on earth, so I deserve to live. He also grabs a parachute and jumps off. Now there’s only one parachute left the priest notices this and tells the kid son go ahead and take the last one. I have lived my life. The boy looks around the plane. We can have we can both live. How the precess because the smartest man in the world just jumped out with my backpack. So until next week, enjoy

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STEM is for girls too! A side of confidence boost FB

STEM is for girls too! A side of confidence boost.

STEM is for girls too! A side of confidence boost FB

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STEM is for girls too! A side of confidence boost to go along with it.

My youngest child and by most accounts the diva of the family is finishing up her second-grade year. Earlier in the year, she announced her love for art and science. The art we’ve known about for some time and have encouraged her to continue with it. She is very artistic in a lot of ways.

Until this year she has not shown a lot of interest in science. Since her announcement and because I know women have been pushed out of science for a long time, I have done everything I can to keep her interested in science.

She is determined to find out why the dinosaurs went extinct. She has learned the different theories but says she will find the truth. Who am I to argue? I am not one to tell a child not to pursue their dream no matter how difficult it might appear. Her dream is to find out how dinosaurs became extinct while becoming a world-class gymnast, famous dancer, singer and actress, and veterinarian.

Now if only I could get her to clean her rabbit’s cage.

We support every one of those dreams whenever we can.

One way we have kept her interested in science is through a subscription service called MEL STEM kits. Every month she receives a STEM project that she must read about, put together, and get it to work on. She’s probably completed 6 or 7 now.

mel stem project kits for girls who want to learn science

Initially, the plan was for us to work on them together, and we did for the first two. Now she doesn’t even wait for me and completes them as soon as they arrive.

The first kit she received was a hydraulic jack. It still sits on her nightstand in working condition many months later.

Since then, she has completed kits with 3D glasses, a cannon, and one involving lights and refraction, to list a few. She has learned a lot on her own and takes great pride in completing the projects. She has shared a few of them for show and tells at school.

The most important aspect of her being able to complete the stem kits (on her own) is she is building confidence. One day someone will tell her science is not for girls, and she will have the confidence and experience to tell that someone they are wrong.

MEL Science kits also include an app that allows kids to continue learning (for life) with augmented videos. What child doesn’t love watching videos?

MEL STEM project kits are great for younger children, but the fun and learning don’t have to end there. MEL also has:

MEL was named the BETT Innovator of the year and received the EdTech Cool Tool award as the best VR/AR tool of 2020. These science kits are fun, educational, challenging, and great for building confidence in your children’s ability to complete projects.

My daughter cannot wait until she receives the next one. They come once a month and she usually completes them within a few days of receiving them. She takes pictures and sends it to her teachers, shows us the completed project, and explains what it does and how it works.

To put this into perspective, she received a microscope and slides for Christmas (to encourage her in science). They remain in the box 6 months later. She is extra motivated by successfully completing a science project, and she is learning while doing them.

mel stem project kits for ages 5 and up

My daughter has always had issues with self-confidence. She often believes things are impossible until we finally convince her to just try. MEL STEM project kits have given her a boost of confidence not only in showing her she can solve complex problems but also in speaking intelligently about scientific topics.

Months after completing one of the kits she will still show it to other family members and explain it as if she just learned about it the day before.

MEL has done more than teaching my daughter about science. It has helped develop her confidence and piqued her interest even more in the world of science.

Now about that rabbit cage.

the weight loss journey again

The Weight Loss Journey…Again

The Weight Loss Journey, 2022 Version

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It has been an ongoing struggle for years. That’s the truth.

And there were times that I just didn’t give a damn. And it shows.

I love my pasta, pizza, and burgers but they are probably killing me, at least at the rate I am eating them. I knew it was time to make a change but I have been down this road before. I even succeeded once or twice in reaching my goal weight.

I haven’t been happy with how I looked or felt for years. While this might sound like a corny New Year’s Resolution, it’s not. I needed to make a change for my health, and for my kids. I started about 2.5 weeks ago with a change to my diet.

Before I get into this blog post I should tell you I am far from a nutritionist or health expert. I just knew I had to make changes to feel better, so I did.

I should also point out I have been declined life insurance coverage because my A1C was high. I was able to find alternative coverage but couldn’t afford the benefits I wanted because of my type 2 diabetes. I am now on a mission to beat it and not let it control me.

I have also come to realize that I eat horribly when I am stressed out. A lot of sweets, carbs, and fried foods. Recognizing why you eat and what contributes to bad habits is the first step in making a change.

What Changes Did I Make?

The first thing I did was quit sugary goods cold turkey. No more cookies, cakes, cupcakes, or cannolis. I stopped eating ice cream and candy. This was one of the hardest things to do. I often stopped at a convenience store and grabbed water, 5-hour energy, and some kind of sugary product.

The irony was the 5-hour energy was because I was tired, sometimes exhausted. The sugary product was because I was stressed, and caused me to feel tired to a point where I felt I needed a nap. The struggle was real.

I started taking multivitamins late last year to help build up my immunity during the pandemic. Also ironic is two weeks after I started taking them I caught COVID-19. I am still taking them and they have definitely helped me feel healthier. It’s an affordable way to build up immunity and increase your energy naturally.

I take GNC Mega Men every morning.GNC Mega Men One Daily

I used to eat a bowl of oatmeal every morning, with a tablespoon of peanut butter. I love peanut butter. Peanut butter is loaded with sugar though so I cut this out in the morning and now drink a smoothie with fruits and vegetables. When I can find a peanut butter not loaded with sugar that still tastes good I will probably go back to oatmeal in the morning.

I eat a healthy-sized lunch loaded with veggies and usually chicken or fish. I have cut out red meat for now. And dinner is usually a protein shake or meal replacement shake.

Most importantly the sugary snacks have been eliminated. If I feel the need for something sweet I will eat a granola bar or something along those lines.

I have been on a water-only diet for years and drink at least a gallon almost daily. This is not a challenge for me. I did not have to cut soda or juices because I was not drinking them anyway. I can tell you when I first stopped drinking soda I lost a lot of weight very quickly.

I also eat very few carbs now. I haven’t been eating pasta at all which is very difficult for me. I don’t eat bread or rice. I substitute it with Quinoa. This is the brand my wife usually makes. It’s good and I don’t miss eating rice at all because of it.


There are days that there is not enough time between the kid’s school and their activities to make dinner so I will treat them to fast food. I used to eat it too but have completely cut that out as well. This is something I am working to eliminate from their diet too. I will blog about that at some point down the road but I do notice a difference in attitude when they eat it.

How Is It Going?

It was hard to get started but it is getting easier now. I don’t have as many cravings as I did when I started. I am learning to drink more water when I feel the urge to eat a snack and to handle stress a different way, one of them is getting back to this website.

The worst part of the day tends to be the end of the day. I typically go from 5:30 am to 11 pm every day between the businesses and the kid’s activities I don’t have a lot of time so snacks always seemed necessary. I am so busy until after the kids go to bed that I don’t usually pay attention to snacks until then. Then I realize I am hungry and want a snack but I don’t eat after 6 pm now.

I definitely lost weight but I don’t know how much. My scale is broken but I went down a belt size. I also have more energy and cut down on the amount of 5-hour energy I take.  For instance, I have not had any today. There were some days I was drinking one every 5 hours.

There are days that there is not enough time between the kid’s school and their activities to make dinner so I will treat them to fast food. I used to eat it too but have completely cut that out as well. This is something I am working to eliminate from their diet too. I will blog about that at some point down the road but I do notice a difference in attitude when they eat it.

What Are The Results?

As I mentioned already I have not been keeping track of my weight. I do feel better with fewer aches and pains already. I definitely have more energy. My shirts are starting to fit better and I went down a belt size so there are some measurable differences.

The increase in energy leads me to believe my A1C is also lower but I do not have a way to measure that at home. I am planning to get a physical soon.

I have a long way to go and just today I started doing some exercise. I did a few push-ups. If you read this blog then you know I was running for a while, until I got injured. I want to get back to running at some point but the gym is too crowded in the COVID world, it’s winter so outside is not ideal, and my treadmill broke. But soon hopefully. I will continue to increase what I can at home.

In short, eating better foods, less food, taking in more vitamins, fruits, and vegetables has improved my overall mood, energy and has helped me to lose weight.

I have some weights at home that I can start lifting with again. I will also be purchasing this adjustable dumbbell soon (look for a review).


FLYBIRD Adjustable Dumbbell,25/55lb Single Dumbbell

They say a journey of a thousand miles starts with a single step. I have taken a few steps in the right direction now so hopefully, I can reach that destination.

One thing I will tell the younger generations (I am Gen-X) is to take care of their body at a young age. Avoid junk and fast food. Don’t drink soda, etc… It is so much harder to lose weight and get healthier as you get older.  I have successfully completed this journey before only to get off the treadmill and start eating horribly again. It gets harder every time.


The Dad Tax Years in the Making

It’s Been Years in the Making so 2022 it Is

It’s Been Years in the Making so 2022 it Is

If you’ve visited this blog over the years you’re probably keenly aware that I have not been keeping it up to date. Life has a way of interrupting the best-laid plans.

My kids are 3 years older now and a lot has changed in my professional life. I kept this site up because I did/do intend to get back to it. While I still believe the most important title I hold is daddy sometimes I can only do that job in the privacy of my own home.

What Have I Been Up To?

Professionally speaking a lot has changed while some things remained the same. I still consult on SEO projects but have decided I no longer wanted to handle other businesses’ social media marketing, digital advertising, or website development. I only consult on and train SEO. I do not actually handle it for other businesses anymore. If you need SEO Consultation click here.

The Search Ninja - Scott Gombar SEO Expert

I resurrected my IT Business (Nwaj Tech). It is a managed services provider (I call it Proactive IT). I have been getting busier and busier with that.

I also run a mastermind/networking group called Main Street Networking. I have been working on growing that. In fact, one of the hashtags is #LetsGROW

I still do some affiliate marketing, obviously. Clearly not enough to make a living off of but I work on it in my spare time.

I have been asked to write a book on being a dad a couple of times now but have not had enough time to sit down and complete it. I am still very seriously considering it but need to carve out time to write it.

I have also been asked to help put together a virtual dad convention. I am meeting with the person who asked me soon. This will be an international virtual dad convention date to be determined.

And finally, I am considering starting a podcast involving dads but with a twist that involves sports too. I don’t want to give more away just yet but I already own the domain so it’s coming.

2022 will be the first year that I do not coach baseball but my son is still playing. More on that in a bit.

What About the Kids?

isaiah on the mound - the dad tax

Isaiah is still playing baseball, at a much higher level than the last time I wrote. He is on a travel team and has been on a few over the last 4 years. He has made the local all-star team 4 years running now but will no longer be playing for that team anymore.

This past summer he had the walk-off hit to win the district championship for his team. He also closed every game of the tournament. He has aspirations of attending Vanderbilt University, obviously to play baseball.

Isaiah wants to visit every MLB stadium. So far we’ve visited Yankee Stadium and Citifield.

the daddy and hannah famous pic the dad tax

Hannah is still doing gymnastics and dance. She continues to get better at both. She is also very creative and has a lot of interest in all things science.

They’re both doing very well in school. They’re both playing the piano. Isaiah also plays the violin.

We are all just navigating our way through the post-COVID world (can we call it that yet). Yes, it did make the rounds in my house once late last year. Isaiah and Hannah spent exactly a year distance learning. It started to wear on Isaiah so we made the tough decision to send them back almost exactly a year after the pandemic started. He is flourishing now and we do not regret that decision.

I know every parent says this about their children but mine are super talented, super smart, and super energetic. They’re going places.

I am also proud to say that I am a grandfather now. My oldest daughter had her first child about 3.5 years ago. His name is Avery. He is full of energy and doing really well.

What About My Health?

If you know me you know I am a big supporter of addressing men’s mental health issues. I still support Movember every year as should you!

I gained some weight (not a lot) over the 3 years but I am working on losing it now, and beating Type 2 Diabetes. There will be logs about that too.

Oh, my beard is just a little bit longer now..just a little bit.

What’s Next for the Dad Tax?

I will continue to grow this brand and all that goes with it. I have other affiliate sites and my business sites that I also need to write for but will continue to create content for the Dad Tax. Of course, I will keep you all up to date on the virtual dad’s convention and hope to see all of you there.

When I am ready to run with the podcast idea I will share it here. It will be on a different website. I am still considering hosting a podcast on this site as well.

If I do write that book you know I will share that here as well.

Make sure you follow all of the social platforms to stay up to date.

its been a while the dad tax

It’s Been a While, but I Didn’t Leave (or Give Up)

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It’s Been a While, but I Didn’t Leave (or Give Up)

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Life is Funny

I have not blogged on this site in a couple of months and it’s been gnawing at me.  I feel as though I am shirking my responsibilities.

Truth is I have just been very busy.  I started a new business, sort of.  It’s something I have always done for a select few but decided I am going to push forward with it.

I still run the SEO business, with carefully selected clients.



Home Life

And other life challenges have all gotten in the way of me sitting down to write a blog for The Dad Tax.

These are all excuses though.  I can write a thousand-word blog in a very short time.  I have been known to put a blog post together in under 30 minutes.

It takes me longer to do all the other stuff that goes along with a blog post (images, SEO, sharing).

Truth is I was just tired.

I am the primary parent after school so that means my afternoons are tied up with a 4 and an 8-year-old, and sometimes an infant (my grandson).

My 4-year-old daughter has been a challenge at bedtime lately.  After 8 pm is usually my time to write blog posts and plan the next days’ social media posts.  She’s been eating at a significant portion of that time.

I have also been setting up how the new business is going to work.  I will talk about that another time but if you’re so inclined checkout

Most days I am up no later than 6 am but sometimes as early as 4 am.

As you can see my schedule is complicated.

But I am not offering any excuses.  Just clarifying. 

What’s New?

My wife and I did visit Guatemala in October.  I will share that trip and pictures in another blog post.

Isaiah is taking winter baseball training at Ultimate Sports.  Gotta keep him warm.

As I write this, we are 5 days away from Christmas.  In our house, it’s a pretty big deal.  Then we hit the road to Virginia to visit my brother-n-law.

A disappointing Jets season is winding down and the hot stove is yet to get hot for the Yankees.

As far as the business side of The Dad Tax I did get my first payout from Google AdSense in October.  I don’t use AdSense on this site, but I have a couple of other sites that I use it on. is a completely automated blog featuring curated IT Security blogs. is my learning/teaching site that I have also not updated in a few months.

My AdSense earnings came from these two sites.

I have been very active in the dad groups on Facebook.  I hope that I have been able to help other dads.

Worth Mentioning

Isaiah has always been a quick learner.  He was reading before he started Kindergarten (now in 3rd grade).

Izzy has been more of a challenge but as she is approaching 5 she is starting to catch on.  What a relief that is because she starts Kindergarten in about 9 months.

She loves to draw and color too.  She is quite the artist already.  I am planning to get her a new artist set for Christmas (yes, I have not finished shopping yet, I am typically a Christmas Eve shopper kind of person).

Isaiah has been writing some short stories.  He shows a lot of promise and creativity with his stories.  He wants to write comics.

I am still a member of Sprezzabox and have yet to be disappointed.  The socks that I have received to date have held up quite nicely.

Another box should be arriving any day now.  I plan to review that one.  My last box included a watch that my son took, socks, and a few other items.  No box has had less than 6 items so far.

I will be reviewing the Roku Sticks and Kindle HD soon as well.  I have a Roku TV and a couple of older Roku boxes, but this will be the first time I use a Roku Stick.  Since we cut the cord and now use YouTube TV for live TV it was time to add this option to more TVs in the house.

And there will be lots more to come.  Now that Nwaj Tech is off the ground I have a little more time to write blog posts.

Now I am going to test some baseline alerting and contact rules.  If I don’t write again I truly hope everyone who reads this blog enjoys the holidays with their family and friends.

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A Dad’s Perspective on Boscov’s – How Boscov’s Thrives

How Boscov’s Thrives When Other Retailers Struggle.   Tour the New Boscov’s in Connecticut (A Dad’s Perspective)

Disclosure:  I was invited to a bloggers event at the Post Mall in Milford CT.  The event was for the opening of a new Boscov’s in the mall.  The opinions and thoughts are mine and not influenced by anyone. 

On Saturday, October 6th, 2018 a new Boscov’s celebrates their opening in Milford CT with a ribbon cutting & grand opening celebration.

On Friday I got to meet Jim Boscov (CEO of Boscov’s) along with some of the other executives and employees of Boscov’s and the Post Mall in Milford Connecticut.


We also toured the new Boscov’s and learned how they can open new stores when it seems other retailers are struggling to stay open.

As I was preparing to write this I read that Mattress Firm is preparing to close 700 stores. We all know of the struggles of Sears, Kmart and Toys R Us.  It seems like retailers not named Walmart or Target are struggling.

If you watch or read the news you have probably also heard that malls are struggling, and some are.  We will get to that later.

Why Did I Choose This Event?

I was the only dad blogger in attendance.  There was only one other male attending. He was there for a fashion blog.  I chose to do this because I think it’s important to understand that men do shop.  It’s important to get a dad’s perspective on what is perceived as a women’s world.

Men prefer to get in and out when they shop.  We almost always know what we want, where to get it, and the fastest way to accomplish this.

We don’t want to spend hours browsing the racks because we have other things to do, like take naps, play with the kids and procrastinate.  These things are very important.

There were approximately 20 women in attendance.  I presume most but not all are moms.  In the blog world, we get the moms perspective far more often than we do the dads.

I chose to do this knowing that I would be one of maybe a few men there.  I chose to do this understanding that this is usually a female dominated area.  I chose to do this to give a dad’s perspective.

How Is Boscov’s Able to Open New Stores?

Boscov’s is the largest family-owned department store chain in the United States.  They have been operating for over one hundred years.

With the addition of the Milford store they now have 47 stores in Pennsylvania, New York, New Jersey, Maryland, Delaware, Ohio, and Connecticut.

They provide a wide array of merchandise but do this with very competitive pricing and excellent customer service.

Boscov’s also understands there are some areas it’s best not to try to compete in some areas like consumer electronics and sports equipment.

Boscovs Grand Opening Event in Milford CT

Here’s Where Boscov’s Differs from the Pack

They Only Open One New Store Per Year

Boscov’s is very intentional with their growth plan, choosing to only open one store per year.

Of course, they research and review the demographics of any potential location to see if it’s a viable location.

By opening only one new store per year they can focus on building and becoming a part of the community.  This sets them apart from competitors because they’re not oversaturating the area but instead taking the time to get to know the community and understanding the location.

Boscov’s Buyers are Good at What They Do

The buyers at Boscov’s know what they’re doing.  They know how to get the best deals on merchandise that the community wants.  They have the research and the contacts to be able to provide the best deals possible.

Boscov’s prides themselves on the relationships they have built with vendors.  These relationships help them get great deals on purchases that they are ready to pass on to their customers.

We met one of the buyers who has been with Boscov’s for over 30 years and has been the buyer for three different departments.  She knew exactly what would sell in Milford Connecticut and how to get the best deal possible on it.

30 years of experience will do that.

Boscov’s Would Rather Focus on Volume Than Profit Margin

Jim Boscov told us that Boscov’s would rather focus on giving its customers better pricing because they will buy more and more often from Boscov’s.  This means lower profit margins, but it also means customers are buying more from Boscov’s.

It seems to be working in everyone’s favor.

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Boscov’s Cares

They say that a company’s culture starts at the top.  Jim Boscov spent time telling us about the company including stories of how they helped people out during the great depression by giving them credit to purchase from Boscov’s when there was no guarantee that they would ever pay them back.

Everyone paid them back!

As we walked around other employees greeted us, not to make commissions but just to say hi.  We toured with someone from marketing who also greeted customers in the store as she walked through.

Jim was walking around talking to customers as we toured the store.  You could tell this was not a show but something that was practiced often.

Boscov’s hired 300 people at the new store.  They brought in another 150 people from other stores to train the 300 new employees.  Not for a few days but for 3 weeks prior to opening.

I have never worked retail, but I have heard horror stories about training. I also have a training background.  Three weeks of training in retail is impressive.

As you can see they do things a little differently.

Me being me did a little research outside of the tour.  Here’s something that was not shared with us during the event.

Jim Boscov, the CEO and obviously part of the Boscov family, has worked other positions for Boscov’s including Assistant Store Manager, Store Manager, Buyer and numerous other positions over a 40-year career at Boscov’s.

I’d say It’s safe to say he worked his way up.  You can rest assured he knows the business inside and out.

The New Boscov’s in Milford Connecticut.

OK, enough about the company.  Let’s talk about the new store….from a Dad’s perspective.

They have women’s clothes, makeup and so on.  I know that dads probably don’t care much about that unless you need a gift.

Let’s talk about what we want!

Children’s Clothing

First, there is a nice assortment of children’s clothes.  I don’t shop for the kid’s clothes often but when I do I prefer it be as painless as possible.

Boscov’s does just that.  There are clothes for children from infant to young adults (teens).  There are clothes for just about any reason.

It’s easy to figure out where the clothes you’re looking for are.

And there are some great deals to be had on children’s clothes because their buyers know what they’re doing.

They do have a small department with toys from Melissa and Doug.  

Did You Say Fudge?

I had no idea…really, none.  Boscov’s has a candy bar.  They also make their own fudge.

I was fortunate enough to not only be able to try some, but I also received a box to take home.

I tried pumpkin flavored fudge.  I know what you’re thinking.  Don’t judge me.

It was amazing.

I have a problem though.  I love chocolate and peanut butter together.  I took home a box of chocolate & peanut butter fudge.  Also, unbelievable.

My wife swiped it the next morning and I have not seen it since.

They have won awards for their fudge.  If you don’t go to Boscov’s for any other reason, then go for the fudge.

Award Winning Fudge at Boscovs in Milford CT

Men’s Clothes

Yes, they have men’s clothes.  In the Milford store, it’s a little more than half of the first floor.  They have casual and suits, ties, and socks (I will get back to the socks in a few sentences).

They have outerwear and underwear.

I know what you’re thinking, so does Walmart and Target.

I loathe Walmart for so many reasons.  Target is cool but sometimes a little pricey.

Boscov’s gets it.  They’re not trying to be either store.  They are family owned and believe that their whole team is part of the Boscov’s family.

That means they do treat their employees right (Walmart does not) and are not overpriced (Target is on some things).

OK, now…I am a short and t-shirt kind of guy who can dress up, and does like to dress up, sometimes.

What I don’t like is the hassle of buying a suit and then having it altered to meet my size.

Boscov’s simplifies the suit buying process.

They have a large selection of suits and can take care of everything in the store.  They also have all the accessories you might need including ties, socks, and shoes.

I saw a large selection of ties but didn’t have a lot of time to go through them as I toured the store.  There was a large color and style selection easily visible as we walked around.

For you bow tie fans they have those too.  I am personally not a fan of bow ties.

You’re reading this so there’s a good chance you’ve read my Sprezzabox blog post where I talk about my sock addiction.  I have several resources to get my sock fix but here’s something I did not know.

Boscov’s has a wide selection of $.99 socks.  I don’t know if this is something they have in other stores, but the Milford store does.

I live 5 minutes from the Meriden Connecticut store, so I will report back to you on the availability there.

I can say with confidence that dads will have no problem filling their clothing needs here.  Sock addicts go check it out.

Socks for 99 cents at Boscovs in Milford CT

As Seen on TV

You know those commercials you see late at night with the cool air fryer or other gadgets?  Well. Boscov’s has a large As Seen on TV section where they carry all those items.

It’s really cool for us dads because there are things we would like in this section.  I saw a George Foreman grill that I will be getting.  They have lots of other household gadgets that intrigue me as well.

Free Gift Wrapping

I am not a fan of wrapping gifts.  I have become an expert at buying gift bags with tissue paper.  To make matters worse my wife also does not like wrapping gifts.

Christmas Eve is painful for us.  We procrastinate every year and complain all night about wrapping the gifts.

Boscov’s has free gift wrapping.  See you soon gift wrappers.

Jim Boscov started talking about curtains and drapes but I suddenly went deaf.  I cannot explain it.

I Am Sold

As we were touring the store I had a short conversation with Jim Boscov.  During the conversation, it came up that I live 5 minutes from the Meriden store.

He asked me what they can do better.  I didn’t have an answer for him.  My wife does most of the shopping.  I was tempted to call her, but I knew she was with clients.

He said you can be honest with me.  The only thing I could think of is I would like to see more children’s clothing though Milford seems to have quite a bit.

He genuinely cares what his customers think.  I have never spoken to the CEO of a retail chain before, but I know that most CEOs are not open to talking to customers like this.

I saw him later talking to another customer at the candy bar.  I can tell he really cares what customers have to say.

I mentioned earlier in this blog that a company’s culture starts at the top.  It’s evident to me that the biggest reason that Boscov’s continues to grow at a time when other retail chains close doors and trim the fat is the customer first culture that starts at the top.

Jim Boscov CEO of Boscovs in Milford CT

The (Connecticut) Post Mall

We also had the opportunity to meet some of the team at the Post (Formerly the Connecticut Post Mall).

The Post’s marketing and management have the mall undergoing a transformation not only physically but philosophically.

The team at the Post understands that how people shop has changed.

Yes, Amazon plays a big part in this but both Boscov’s and the Post understand that people still want to be able to shop and take home items the same day.

The Post also understands that consumers want a centralized place to do things.  The Post is becoming that place.

Shopping, dining, and entertainment are already available at the Post but they will continue to evolve to meet today’s consumer demand.

Coming soon is Muse Paintbar, Kidz Klub and Dave & Busters (conveniently they will be next to each other).

Dave & Busters is set to open in November so look for that grand opening soon.

There’s already a movie theater and plenty of places to eat.  The movie theater features some of the most comfortable seating in the state.

They also have lots of events.  During the grand opening celebration week of Boscov’s, Debby Boone will be performing a couple of times per day.

I was not aware that the Post is the largest mall in Connecticut in square space.  I do know it is a very large mall with lots to do already.

Boscov’s and the Post are proving that traditional brick and mortar can survive with a little creativity and understanding what the consumer wants.

If you’re not innovating, you’re dying.  

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I Benched a Player During a Game.  Here’s What Parents Need to Understand

Parents Just Don’t Understand ~ Will Smith

If you’ve read through this blog at all then you know I am a baseball coach.  I have coached through the first 4 years of my son’s baseball career.  He’s 8.

This year I coached mostly 7 and 8-year-old kids with a couple of talented 6-year-old kids sprinkled in.

I believe this is the age when kids will either continue to develop their baseball prowess or start looking for another interest.

I also believe at this age children start to learn more about right versus wrong and behavior.

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Our Parenting Style

I know over the last couple of generations parenting styles have changed dramatically for some.  I also believe this has created a mentality among parents and their children that they are never wrong.

I am not a fan of this thought process at all.

Let me be clear.  I don’t believe all parents are like this but there are more now than ever before.

Let me explain.

We teach our children to respect their elders.  Coaches, teachers, instructors, aunts and uncles, grandparents, older cousins and anyone else they may need to interact with.

With one caveat.  They adult or elder should not be asking them to do anything that is harmful to themselves or to others.

If Isaiah’s teacher asks him to be quiet in class, then that’s what he is supposed to do.  Don’t challenge the teacher, don’t talk back and don’t ignore her.

If his grandparents ask him to do something he should do it.

This is called respect.  A lot of children today do not respect their elders.  A lot of parents today do not expect their children to respect elders and often side with the child.

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Game Time

During game time one or two of the mothers help supervise the dugout to ensure the kids are not out of control.

The kids like to climb the fence, play bottle flip, and of course, talk/yell/argue.  General shenanigans occur while the coaches are coaching.

In one incident we were advised by the dug-out moms one of the children threatened another child.  This is a no-no.

What the Coaches Decided

We decided to have the child sit on the bench for one inning.  To an 8-year-old that seems like an eternity.

He obliged and sat on the bench.  He seemed to understand that he was wrong.

One inning later he came back in the game.

In between innings one of the child’s parents approached me.  She asked what happened.  I advised her that the child had threatened another child and that this would not be tolerated.

I also told the parent that the child would have to sit for one inning.

She shook her head in what appeared to be an agreement but looked a little upset.  I assumed she was upset at her child.

The Real Issue – Maybe, Probably?

That was 4 games ago.  We have not seen or heard from the child or his parents since even though we communicate to the entire team through an app often.

My assumption is his family decided I was not a fit as a coach and did not want him to play for my team anymore.  I should mention that he has been on my team before.

This to me is a dangerous message being sent to the child.

The Message?

Are we saying if you don’t agree with the coach you just quit?

What message is that sending?

If I don’t agree with my teacher I should drop out of school?  If I don’t agree with my boss I should just quit?  And the parents are OK with this?

This sends a dangerous message to children.

Kids are kids, I get it.  They will fight. They will say things they don’t mean or understand completely. They will try to get out of doing things.

If our children do get spoken to about a behavior that we do not like, they will sometimes offer excuses.  Our response is don’t make excuses, correct the behavior, do the right thing.

We cannot give our children a pass simply because you did not like a coaching decision or a teacher’s decision.  They must learn to respect authority.  Or you’re setting them up for failure.

They don’t have to agree but they do have to respect the authority figure.  Coaches and teachers only get tougher as our kids get older.

I have reported to every type of manager you can imagine of in life.  I often did not agree.  I even expressed my disagreement (which is fine) at times.  I was never disrespectful.  I never quit because of a disagreement or reprimand.

What do you think?  Should children respect authority and their elders?

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Let’s Be Real – This Is Us – Yes or No Dads?

Let’s Keep it Real – This Is Us – Yes or No Dads?

Disclosure: Some of the links in this post are affiliate links and if you go through them to make a purchase I will earn a commission. Keep in mind that I link o these companies and their products because of their quality and not because of the commission I receive from your purchases. The decision is yours, and whether or not you decide to buy something is completely up to you.

I used a highly scientific method of gauging the results documented in this blog post.

I posted to Instagram asking dads whether or not they watch This Is Us and why or why not.

The results overwhelmingly in favor of This Is Us as a good and positive show for dads.

There were a few who had never watched the show, and one who doesn’t watch TV at all.  I get that, I don’t really watch a lot of TV anymore either.


Why Do I Care If Other Dads Watch This Is Us?

For a long time, fathers have been painted in a not so great light.

Generations were taught that dads were seldom (if ever) around to spend time with their kids.  Even if they were around it was still mom’s duty to care and spend time with the children.  Moms are still thought of as the comforter and consoler when it comes to parenting.

Someone must have forgotten to tell Izzy (my daughter)

Dads are supposed to be thick skinned and rarely show emotion.  If dads did show emotion it was only to discipline the children through fear and intimidation.

There were a couple of generations that saw a decline in dads being available to their children even a little bit.  Fortunately, I believe we are seeing this less and less now.

Single mothers are more often praised than dads are.  I won’t knock single moms.  It’s a tough job.  I was raised by a single mother.  I know all too well that it is a tough job.

We need to do a better job lifting up good fathers.

What Does This Is Us Have to Do With Being a Better Dad.

This Is Us is a very real show.  It deals with real issues.  Issues that you or I might face in our lives.  Some of the very important topics include:

  • Addiction/Substance Abuse
  • Parenting
  • Foster Parenting/Adoption
  • Relationships
  • Health Issues
  • Racial Issues

We all deal with these issues indirectly or directly.  For this blog post, I am going to only talk about parenting and relationships.

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Relationships 101

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This Is Us runs almost the full gamut of relationships.  There are the matriarch and patriarch, past and present.  There’re also their children past, present and future.

Through the show, we get to see the interactions of siblings and how difficult situations are handled amongst them.

We get to see how something that might seem inconsequential at the moment can have a long-lasting impact on the person’s wellbeing and future.

We also get to see how “real” relationships should work.

Anyone who keeps it real will tell you that no marriage or long-term relationship is perfect.  You go through ups and downs.

What makes a successful marriage or long-term relationship is compromise, understanding, and patience.

This Is Us is very good about showing real challenges couples face, how they handle them and the potential outcome.

Parenting 101

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None of us are perfect parents either.  Jack (patriarch) was as close as it gets, but not without his faults.

He had an addiction problem.  He may have been a little too passive with his daughter’s eating problems.

But he loved his children (even the adopted child) with every ounce of his being.  He did everything he could to give them a great life.

He encouraged them.  He was patient with them even when they did not deserve patience.  He taught them life lessons.  He loved them in a way only a dad can.

Through the parenting of his children, they grow up to be great parents or aunts/uncles.  Again, they each have their own issues.

Randall overcompensates at times mostly because he was adopted.  He also has a nervous breakdown plus there’s mention of another one earlier in his life. Randall is an amazing father to his daughters, and a foster daughter.

Kevin has an addiction problem.  He does not have children but is a great uncle to his nieces.  And his nieces adore him.

Kate is extremely obese and struggles with health and self-esteem issues as a result.  Like Kevin, she does not have children but is a good aunt.

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Spoiler Alert

The show is not without tear jerkers.  Every week something tugs at your heart.  If you deny this then you have no heart.

This week was the start of season 3.  This is one of the few shows my wife and I enjoy together.

Again there was some dust in the air while This Is Us was on.  I don’t know why that happens every time This Is Us comes on.

The first episode of Season 3 focuses on the beginning of Jack and Rebecca’s relationship (it definitely did not start off well).

It also focuses on the relationship between Randall and his foster daughter (Deja).  He wants to adopt her and give her stability while she is dealing with the fact that her biological parents don’t want her.  Not an easy thing for a teenager to deal with.

And Kate & Toby are trying to get pregnant but struggle because of their own health issues, primarily Kate being overweight.

There are of course other smaller storylines but those are the biggest ones for episode 1.

At the end of the episode they again fast forward to an older Randall and one of his daughters discussing going to see “her”.  His daughter is not ready to see “her”.  Then Randall calls Toby who is in a bed alone.  Randall tells Toby it’s time to go see “her” and Toby begrudgingly agrees.

I suspect it will be a while before we find out who “her” is.

I do not plan to write every week about This Is Us.  The purpose of this was to highlight how dads can/should/do play a bigger role in their children’s lives today.

Dads Are Important!!

I spend a ton of time with my children.  When I am not with them I cannot wait to see them.  I am far from a perfect dad or a perfect husband, but I love them with all of my heart.

100% of my energy goes into making them outstanding children that get to experience the best childhood possible.  I also work on strengthening my marriage all the time.

This Is Us puts being a great dad on display with all of a dad’s imperfections and mistakes. Jack and Randall both show how you can overcome any obstacle to give your children all the love and guidance they need.

This Is Us helps fathers be better fathers.  At least it does for me.

What do you think of This Is Us?

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The Ultimate Guide to Being an Awesome Dad

10 Ways Dads Can Improve Their Relationship with Their Children

This took me a while to put together.  Truth is there are lots of awesome dads out there, and lots of different reasons they are awesome dads.

I can’t say you’re an awesome dad because you took your kids to see Star Wars or you let them eat pizza and ice cream for dinner.

Taking your kids to Disney or some other awesome kid-focused vacation spot does not make you an awesome dad, though it certainly helps, and you will be the hero for at least a few days.

There are so many things we can do and say that are awesome, but they don’t make you an awesome dad.

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Why Did I Create The Ultimate Guide to Being an Awesome Dad?

I write this from a different perspective.  My father was not around when I was a child.  I have heard different reasons why that is, and I am not going to get into the blame game but my father was not around from the time I was approaching my teen years.  Even before that it was very sparingly.

I don’t know what it is like to be the child of an awesome dad.  I do believe I know what it’s like to be an awesome dad.

My father is still alive and lives only a few miles from me.  He has had chances to reconcile and get to know his grandchildren but never made the effort.

He did leave me with one life lesson though.

Be the Best Dad I Can Be!

It seems that not having a father (figure) in your life can have a very profound effect on your adult years.  It will either be very negative or very positive.  I have seen it go both ways.

I chose to be the best dad I could possibly be.  I put being a dad before EVERYTHING else.  It’s more important to me to play My Little Pony with my 4-year-old daughter than it is to watch any Yankee or Jets game.

It’s more important to me to teach my 8-year-old son all I know about baseball than it is to make money or hang out with friends at the bar.  And I know a lot about baseball.

It was more important to me to see my oldest daughter play softball than it was to work overtime or hang out with friends.  She’s 23 now and just had a child of her own.

I will not be the kind of grandfather who does not know his grandchildren.  Avery is not even two months old yet and I have already spent more time with him than my father ever did with his grandchildren, combined.

If there is one slice of pizza left, it’s more important that the kids have it.

Yes, there are times when I need alone time or quality time with my wife, but my kids are EVERYTHING.

This guide is fluid.  It’s also somewhat personal to me.

I will probably add or edit this guide over time as I think of other important things that need to be clarified.  Make sure you bookmark it and return to it.

What Makes a Dad Awesome?

Here are 10 things I believe make an awesome dad.  I have spent a lot of time researching this and asking questions, reading posts/responses in dad forums and websites.

This also aligns closely with my own feelings on being an awesome dad.

1. Time

I put this one first because I believe it is the single most important factor in a child’s life.  Studies have proven that not having a father in a child’s life has a long-lasting impact on that child’s life.

There are things your child cannot learn from their mother.  Now before you blast me with a woman can do anything a man can do let me clarify.  A woman cannot teach a young boy how to be a man.  A mother cannot teach her daughter how a man should love her.

Every time my daughter gets a new dress, or her mom does her hair a different way she runs to me for approval.  She wants to know what I think.  It’s up to me to teach her about self-worth.  Of course, I always think she looks beautiful, but I also add to me saying she looks gorgeous with you don’t need anyone’s validation.  If you think you’re pretty that’s all that matters.

My son sometimes loses his cool.  Boys have different levels of aggression than girls in their younger years, well almost all their life.  It’s up to me to teach him how a man should respond.  Mom cannot teach this.  It will not be viewed in the same way.

There are just some things mom, or another adult figure cannot teach.  I am living proof of this.  My mom did the best she could but there were things that were missing because there was no real father figure.

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I spend as much time as possible with my children.  Whether it’s chilling out on the couch, roughhousing, baseball practice, hiking or hanging out in my office to use one of my laptops they know I am available to them.

Spending time dancing with your daughter or having a nerf battle with your son will leave an impression on them that will be unmatched.

Hiking, going to the beach, walking to the mailbox, showing them new chores, helping them with homework, teaching them something new, grab a taco and a movie…. there are so many things that you as a dad can do during your time with your children.

Things that you don’t even realize you’re doing as a dad.  You’re just spending TIME with your children.

Let’s be clear.  You’re not babysitting.  It drives me crazy when someone asks if I am babysitting my kids.  They are my kids.  I do not babysit them.  We have a babysitter.  She’s 13 years old and loves kids.  She is not a dad (or mom).  Parents do not babysit their own kids.

Spend time with your children.  You don’t need to do anything during that time, just be there for them.

2. Patience

Almost as important as time is patience.  And this is something that I sometimes struggle with.  I used to have a really short fuse, but I have worked on it over time.

Nothing teaches you patience like having an infant with colic.  I have done it three times now.  It might be the worst thing ever.  Imagine your child crying for hours on end and there’s nothing you can do about it.

I endured it and learned patience through it.

I mentioned my daughter (Izzy) is a chatterbox.  When I pick her up from school she will spend the next 15 minutes traveling home telling me everything that happened during her day.  I am not even sure she takes a breath.

She’s sitting with me in the office as I try to add to this blog post.

I love it but when my blog juice kicks in and I am trying to put a blog post together, especially one as epic as this one, I need concentration.  I have heard “Daddy” at least 5 times in the span of this paragraph.

I stopped and responded to her inquiry each time.  She just wants to show me things she is doing in ABCMouse.  She’s doing a great job!

3. Knowledge

You don’t need to be a rocket scientist to be an awesome dad.  And no one is prepared to raise a child no matter what book you read.

You just need to be able to teach your children things.

It can be anything.  How to change spark plugs, how to fix a computer, how to lay down a bunt, how to grill the perfect cheeseburger.

I truly believe that everyone is an expert on at least one subject, probably many more.  Your subject might not seem like much to someone else but to your children, it means the world.

Impart that knowledge with your children and they will run with it.  Children are sponges.  They will soak up your knowledge and make it even better.

Ultimately our job is to give our children a better life than the one we had.  Teaching them all you know is a step in that direction.

Life lessons are a great piece of knowledge to share, and who doesn’t have a few life lessons to share?

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4. Understanding

Children are tiny complex human beings.  Sometimes it is impossible to understand what they really want or need.

As parents, we all know what it is like to calm a cranky baby but as they get older it gets harder to figure them out.

Babies only cry for a few reasons.  They’re hungry, uncomfortable, tired or in pain.

As they get older they have more emotions, more things to care about, more things they want to know.  They become more complex and harder to understand.

It’s important that even if you don’t understand you let them know that you are working on understanding them.

Try to remember what it was like to be 7, 10, or 16 all over again.  High School was not fun for me.  Was it fun for you?

Try to remember how it felt when you got yelled at in front of your friends.

Try to remember how it felt eating Salisbury steak and green beans for the 4th time in a week.

What do they say about empathy?  Walk a mile in their shoes?

I am not saying you need to give in to their every demand.  As a matter of fact, don’t.  I would never suggest that.  Not giving in doesn’t mean you don’t understand them.

A child’s world is much smaller than ours.  Their desires and problems are very different.  Understanding them will go a long way towards being an awesome dad.

5. Example

Set the example.  My mom used to say, “Do As I Say, Not As I Do”.  The reality is children watch everything you do and will mimic it.

Do you yell a lot?  They will mimic this.  Short fuse?  They will mimic it.

Are you patient?  Do you eat vegetables?  Do you read, or veg out on the TV?

How is your relationship with other people, especially your significant other?

They will mimic all these things.

I was raised by an old-school Italian mom who used soup ladles and hair brushes to make her point.  While I would never use any of these things to discipline my children I do at times raise my voice.

I have noticed that my children sometimes raise their voice in frustration.  Point taken.  I need to adjust.

What example are you setting?

6. Discipline

OK, this one is probably the hardest but one of the most necessary things to be an awesome dad.

My mother used to say “This is gonna hurt me more than it hurts you” before she beat us with a soup ladle.  I never understood this until I became a parent.

I don’t want to paint my mother as a bad person.  She was not.  It was a different generation with different beliefs as it relates to raising children.
She was a single mother who did the best she could to raise two boys.  No easy task for sure and my brother and I didn’t help.

Disciplining your children hurts you to the core sometimes.  Having to send them to their room on a Saturday when you planned to spend time hanging out with them is painful.

The look on their face when you must discipline is enough to break your heart.  Taking away something they were looking forward to hurts you just as much as it hurts your child.

I do believe that I am my son’s first best friend and hope this lasts a lifetime.  I do believe I am both my daughters’ first love and I hope that lasts a lifetime.

I also believe that for them to grow up respecting others they need to learn to respect rules as they are given.  They first need to learn to respect their parents before they will respect anyone else.

They will respect you as a dad if you set rules and honor those rules.

Let’s go back to setting the example for a minute.  Do you respect the rules as well?

We have a rule in our house that there are no electronics at the dinner table.  This applies to everyone, including guests.  That means for the time we are at the table the focus is on eating and family.

If I sat down at the table and ignored this rule what message am I sending my children?

I can’t then discipline them for breaking the rules.  It wouldn’t be fair (you hear that a lot as a parent, just make sure you are being fair).

It is very important that your children have respect for you as a parent.  Without rules and discipline, they will not respect you as much, if at all.

My younger kids are also taking Karate.  This is a great way to teach them self-control and discipline. Their karate school has an anti-bullying class.  They also teach and give homework structured around respect, self-control, discipline and other areas that parents sometimes struggle when raising children.

Hearing it from more than one source is always helpful.


Listen to any adult who thought their parents were tough on them as a child.  They will thank their parents for being tough, setting guidelines and demanding respect through discipline and setting the example.

Just make sure the discipline is not abusive.

7. Belief

Your children will change career paths and dreams a thousand times before finishing high school.

So far, I have heard doctor, fireman, garbage man, train conductor, train engineer, teacher, pro baseball player, gymnast, pediatrician, social worker, and dancer to name a few.

My response is always you will be a great (fill in the blank).  They will have big dreams and lofty goals.  Some might seem unattainable.

Support them and believe in them.

Isaiah believes he can make it to MLB.  I would love nothing more than for this to happen.  I also know it’s a long shot.

I tell him constantly he can do anything he puts his mind to if he works hard and puts in the effort.  I honestly do believe he can make it.

That’s one of the many examples for all 3 of my children.  I believe they can accomplish anything even when they don’t.  When they feel defeated or frustrated I tell them they can do it, whatever it is.

Izzy tells me she can’t write the number two or letter Z or K.  I know she can.  She needs encouragement.  Something so minor to us is a big deal to her.  Showing that I believe in her will go a long way.

I mentioned earlier that my adult daughter, Arielle, is a new mother.  It isn’t the path I would have chosen for her (yes, I told her that) but I believe she will be a great mom and successful in life.

Yes, I still tell my 23-year-old daughter she can do anything she puts her mind to.  Yes, I am still there for her.

Believing in your children, supporting your children and encouraging your children never ends.

8. Sense of Humor

This is a must.  How can you not have a sense of humor as a dad?

I am accused of having a dry sense of humor.  I share corny jokes with my kids all the time.

I have a quick wit that some people don’t always get.  That’s their problem.

I am sarcastic.  It’s rubbing off on my children.  This has been carried down for generations in my family.

I believe all dads have a talent for snappy responses and corny jokes.

You also need to be able to laugh at things.  When your child does something that should cause you distress sometimes it’s better to just laugh.

Don’t laugh at them if it’s going to make them feel bad.  Wait until they are not around and laugh.

Izzy cannot really pronounce her Rs so when she says Fork it sounds like something else.  We laugh, but not at her.  It’s funny.

Isaiah tries to come up with his own jokes.  Sometimes they’re terrible but sometimes he is spot on.  We laugh with him.

Without a sense of humor, you may as well throw in the towel.  You can’t take everything seriously or you will go grey/bald faster than the rest of us.



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9. Life Lessons

I love passing on life lessons to all of my kids.  They don’t always love receiving the lessons.

I have shared life lessons about everything from tying your shoes to young love with my children.

I have always been honest with my children about where I have come from, where I have been and what I have learned.  If it prevents an ounce of pain then my job is done.

Be honest with them about life.  Make sure that it’s age appropriate but be honest.

Teach them about the pitfalls, the life hacks and the things they don’t teach in school.

You also must let them learn some of their own lessons.  I like to call this the invisible leash.

I will let my children make decisions for themselves but keep a close eye so that if/when they fall the net is not too far away. I think this is what sets a good father and an awesome dad apart.

Here’s an example.  Isaiah rarely cuts loose outside of his comfort zones (home and school).  We joke that he’s a lightweight when it comes to partying.  He’s almost always out cold by 9 pm, even at a party.

At a recent wedding, he held true to form as he fell asleep at the dinner table around 8:30 or 9:00 pm.  When the DJ cranked it up he woke up and started dancing with his cousins.

He spent a few hours dancing and running around.  When he was running around he would go with his cousins out of the reception area and into the hallways of the building, out of our sight.

My wife was a little worried about this, as was I.  We do not like to let him out of our sight.

He is 8 now.  He needs to start learning to make smart choices.  He has been taught and guided for 8 plus years now.  He’s a very smart boy. It’s time to let him make some mistakes or learn some life lessons on his own.

He did just fine!

They don’t always do the right thing.  It’s OK.  Be there with the net and to help them understand the life lesson.  That’s what an awesome dad does.

10. Dependable

Izzy asks me all the time if I will be there for her under all these different scenarios.  My answer is always a resounding yes.

They need to know that you will do as you say.  If you say you’re going to be at the school play or the basketball game, be there.

If you say you’re going to do something, then do it.

Help them with homework.  Get them on the bus or off the bus for school.  Play catch when you say you’re going to play catch.

When your daughter asks you to dance (and she will) you dance.  I am a terrible dancer but I love nothing more than to dance with Izzy.

I sometimes purposely put the computer down so that I can just spend a few extra moments playing with them.

If I tell them I will be somewhere I make every effort to be there.


There are times when I am dead on my feet and all I want to do is veg out on the couch but one of the children need me for something.

Children need to know that daddy will be there.  Being dependable means everything to them.  Not being there repeatedly will break their hearts.  Be the rock.

If you are not with the mother of your children, then it is CRITICAL that you spend every moment possible with your children.  If it’s your weekend or vacation or holiday that is your number one priority.  Be there.

Call them, facetime them, text them.  It’s so easy to stay in touch now there should be no excuses.  Be an awesome dad.

What Does Not Make You an Awesome Dad

You will notice on my list that there is nothing that costs money.  All the toys and gadgets in the world will not make you an awesome dad.

Paying coaches and trainers to teach your children while you run around and do other things will not make you an awesome dad.

Yes, I do pay for extra training, but I am there watching most of the time.  I critique their extra training after they’re done.  For that 30-60 minutes, my undivided attention is on them.

Letting them do whatever they want because you feel guilty does not make you an awesome dad.

Taking a quick Instagram photo to share with the world when you barely see your child does not make you an awesome dad.  In fact, that makes you a terrible father.

Being disrespectful to your children’s mother or other family members do not make you an awesome dad.

Truth Hurts

I am happy to say that all the dads I know are awesome dads.  No matter the circumstances they are there for their children.

They work hard.  They provide for them.  They spend time with them.  They teach, talk, listen, learn, understand, empathize and love their children.

I am not naïve though.  I know there are plenty of fathers who do not do their part.  Shame on you.

If you’re not being the best dad you can be you are scarring your child for life.  And you just might be creating a hurtful cycle.

In Closing, Be Awesome

Being an awesome dad is my first and most important job.  It’s the hardest job I have ever done and will ever do.  I am on call all the time.  There’s no retirement plan.  There’s no bonus plan or stock option.  Breaks are far and few between.

Yet, I would not trade it for the world.

I do get handmade cards and socks & t-shirts on Father’s Day and my birthday.  These are the best rewards ever.  Well with one exception.

That tight, meaningful hug for no real reason is the greatest gift known to man.  And I get them all the time.

Dads (and Moms) don’t get me wrong.  I am not a perfect parent by any stretch of the imagination.  I make mistakes.  Daily.  We all do.

But to my children, I am an awesome dad.

What do you think makes an awesome dad?

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Why I Encourage My Children to Be the Best

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I have done the math. I have crunched the numbers. I know the chances are slim.


You’re probably wondering what I am talking about. Let me share.

I have written a few times on The Dad Tax about my son Isaiah and his baseball skills.

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Isaiah is 8 years old. He has above average skills on the diamond…for an 8-year-old. This isn’t a dad bragging about his son. This is feedback I have received from other coaches, including one coach who has worked with players like Charlie Morton.

Typically, he plays middle infield unless I feel he is lacking focus and then I move him to the outfield. Focus is one thing I stress but one thing he often lacks.  And yes I am one of his coaches.  I am also probably harder on him than any of the other kids on my team.

He prefers Shortstop. One of his favorite players (now retired) is Derek Jeter.

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Other trainers and coaches have said the following about him:

• Very athletic
• Great range (needed at shortstop)
• Positive attitude
• Good teammate
• Always gives 100%
• Works hard
• Loves the game
• Competitive

Most of these are requirements in my book. I often award the game ball to the player who has the best attitude and best effort for a given game. That’s exactly what I did during the first game of Fall Ball.

What I Want for Isaiah

He loves baseball almost as much as me at this point. He is light-years ahead of where I was at the age of 8. When I was 8 there were no real organized baseball leagues where I lived.

I would absolutely love for him to make it to Major League Baseball.

The Reality

I know it is a big long shot to make it to MLB. A High School senior has a .5 percent chance of being drafted. That’s 1 in 200.

Being drafted does not mean you make it to the bigs either. That just means a team is interested and you will play in their minor league system.

Your odds improve slightly if you play college ball. 11 in 100 are drafted, just over 10%.

What I would ultimately like is for Isaiah to receive a scholarship to play baseball, get his college degree and be drafted. The first part of this sentence is a lot more likely, especially given his academic abilities so far.



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The Next Level

I learned not to long ago that to make it to the next level of your baseball career you must be one of the best.

Let me explain.

Isaiah currently plays little league. This year was the first year he played at a level that had pitching required. They used a machine (fewer kids get hit by a pitch this way).

He’s been hitting pitching for a few years, so this was not a big jump for him.

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Next year he must move up again. He will face live pitching next year. To this point, I have been the only person to pitch to him.

He also must try out for the first time next year. I have seen some of the kids that play at this level. I don’t believe trying out will be an issue but there’s always that nagging feeling.

What I learned is to move up from level to level you must be one of the best 2 players on a team.

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There are 3 baseball leagues in my town. Each league probably has approximately 60 kids playing baseball in the different age brackets.

For Isaiah’s age bracket that would mean there are approximately 180 kids playing baseball in my town.

There are also 3 high schools in my town (sensing a theme here). Each high school team can have 20 players on the varsity team. If there is a junior varsity team then that’s another 20 players.

Let’s focus on just varsity because these are the kids most likely to get college scholarships.

That means in Meriden there will be 60 varsity players. This is 1/3 of the total number of kids playing at Isaiah’s level now.

We are not sure what we are doing for high school yet, he’s only in 3rd grade right now. We would like him to go to a private school. Baseball may help with this but that only highlights my point further.

One of the 3 high schools in my town is a technical school. He probably won’t go to this school but again we don’t know for sure. That means the number is now cut to 40.

He will be assigned a school based on where we live. That means the number is now 20.

20 out of 180 kids. That means 1 in 9 kids makes it to the varsity team.

The same is true of college-level baseball. 1 or 2 kids on a high school varsity team might make it to college level baseball.

As I said earlier just over 10% of college players get drafted.

Of those that are drafted 1 or 2 on a minor league team might get called up on average.

Do you see where I am going with this?

It’s a long, tough road filled with hard work, dedication, pain, sacrifice, and skill.

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I tell Isaiah to be able to progress to the next level he must be one of the 2 best players on the field for that given game, every game. He must be one of the two best in training, in practice and in every aspect of the game.

I remind him all the time.

Most of the time he is not. He’s 8 and just wants to have fun. I completely understand. I am an adult and just want to have fun.

I reminded him again on Tuesday (our first Fall Ball game) that he had to be one of the two best on the field, for both teams.

Tuesday he clearly was.

He played shortstop as usual. He hustled his, well you know what, off. He fielded great. He made a few decision-making mistakes but that comes with learning the game.

His offense was good. He still needs to work on keeping his eye on the ball, but he was 2 for 4 and showed a little power for the first time in 2018.

Isaiah is small for his age. A proud moment this summer was being told he had finally crossed the 50-pound mark (barely). He’s not a big eater. So, any sign of power is a bonus.

He was focused. Intensely focused.

Every time he came up to bat the other team coaches warned their players.

“He’s a good hitter” “Watch Out” “Be Ready”

Some of the coaches have seen him before. They know what to expect.

He was clearly one of the two best players on the field Tuesday.

I did not award him the game ball. I have my reasons which I explained to him. He completely understands.

I did tell him that he was one of the two best players on the field for both teams that day.

Why Do You Care?

You’re probably thinking to yourself by now why is he sharing this with me? Why do I care that his son has above average baseball skills?

I don’t expect you to care. Here’s why I am sharing.

First, I am proud of his effort and dedication. So naturally, I want to share.

More importantly, the point I want to make is as parents we need to encourage our children to strive for excellence.

Izzy is my 4-year-old daughter. She started gymnastics last year. She was so good that they moved her up to the next level (5-8-year-old group, she was 3 at the time). She left other kids in her age group who have been taking gymnastics even longer behind. There were 5-year old’s in her original group. She surpassed them in a few short months.




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Isaiah excels at reading. He has been reading at a 6-8 grade level for over a year now. He is at or above grade level in every subject. We continue to push him.

When he started swimming lessons we switched him from one school to another because they did not challenge him enough. He was swimming on his own within a few weeks after the switch.

Children learn fast.

Children don’t comprehend limitations. Their limitations are put in place by parents and by their own ability.

Encourage them to be one of the two best on the field, in the gymnasium, in the swimming pool, in the classroom.

Encourage your children to strive for excellence.

Your child is not going to be good at everything. Isaiah also plays the piano. He’s OK at best. We continue to have him go to lessons because playing an instrument helps children with focus. Not just on the instrument but on everything.

We continue to encourage him to get better.

Now, before you tell me that my children have too many activities….

They also have plenty of downtime. Playtime is also learning time. We know that.

We balance it out so that they don’t crash and burn.

They get plenty of sleep as well. We understand the importance of rest and recovery.

We will continue to encourage our children’s pursuit of excellence. We will continue to encourage our children to be one of the two best no matter what they do.  They may excel.  The may fail.  They will try.

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